Human Intimacy and the Hedgehog Dilemma: Why is it human’s desire a closeness to others, but also tend to push them away? Could it be we are like the Hedgehog (or porcupine)… that is to say, we, like these animals seek to become close to one another to share (whatever the sharing may be, laughter, food, resources, love, and so forth), yet, when we get too close, we often at times cannot avoid hurting one another (like a hedgehog or porcupine would do if they attempted to close an intimate proximity to one another), and so, like these animals, while desiring the intimacy (in all forms, not just a sexual one) of those from our species, despite goodwill, human intimacy cannot occur without some type of mutual harm. So instead of really trying to understand this behaviour in our species, we often instead develop cautious behaviours that lead to weak relationships, misrepresentation and misunderstandings. We forget to see the person for the quills that are protecting the exterior. Like the hedgehog moderation may be the key (both out of self interest and consideration of and for others) where human interaction is concerned. Then again, some just love to dive in, quills and all, as they see that the hurt that may come is worth it in the big picture and the quills of our specie are something we all need to look at more if we ever want to be more than just those two hedgehogs in a tree…. Close (and often yearning), but never able to really reach out and touch each other in a real way.
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Human Intimacy and the Hedgehog Dilemma:

Why is it human’s desire a closeness to others, but also tend to push them away?

Could it be we are like the Hedgehog (or porcupine)… that is to say, we, like these animals seek to become close to one another to share (whatever the sharing may be, laughter, food, resources, love, and so forth), yet, when we get too close, we often at times cannot avoid hurting one another (like a hedgehog or porcupine would do if they attempted to close an intimate proximity to one another), and so, like these animals, while desiring the intimacy (in all forms, not just a sexual one) of those from our species, despite goodwill, human intimacy cannot occur without some type of mutual harm.

So instead of really trying to understand this behaviour in our species, we often instead develop cautious behaviours that lead to weak relationships, misrepresentation and misunderstandings. We forget to see the person for the quills that are protecting the exterior.

Like the hedgehog moderation may be the key (both out of self interest and consideration of and for others) where human interaction is concerned.

Then again, some just love to dive in, quills and all, as they see that the hurt that may come is worth it in the big picture and the quills of our specie are something we all need to look at more if we ever want to be more than just those two hedgehogs in a tree…. Close (and often yearning), but never able to really reach out and touch each other in a real way.

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